Lets face it ..I'm in the cusp of middle agedom as much as I hate to admit it. When "J" and I told our respective parents about our pending adoption, the common response was " Don't you think you guys are too old to raise a child?" I guess we probably could have started this sooner but honestly we were selfish. I wanted desperately to finish graduate school to get my nurse practitioner degree, I wanted to take up playing tennis again, we wanted to buy a house on Cape Cod..essentially we did all the expensive things instead of raising a child.
Since I was going to be the primary caretaker, I wondered if raising a child was going to fulfill me or would I regret career / financial opportunities. Since I'm only one month into this child rearing venture..I can't say for now. When friends who have kids gush about the joys of parenthood, I always thought ."are they crazy?" "they have to deal with a crying , expensive child..while I'm about to play tennis, then go shopping, then have cocktails with friends...fun!"
I did run across this article in the Huffington post..which just read my mind.